6 Months In
Compatibility check — the honeymoon phase is ending, the real one begins.
5 questionsWhere do you see yourself in 3 years?
Why this matters: Goals should be directionally aligned, not identical.
They have no idea, or their answer makes your future impossible.
How do you feel about having children?
Why this matters: Non-negotiable conversation that's often avoided too long.
A firm "yes" meeting a firm "no" with no space for discussion.
What's your relationship with money?
Why this matters: Financial incompatibility is one of the top reasons relationships end.
What does a bad week look like for you, and what do you need?
Why this matters: Tests emotional availability and self-knowledge.
What's something about you that I might not know yet?
Why this matters: Creates space for disclosure before deeper commitment.