First 3 Months
Getting real — moving past first impressions into actual patterns.
5 questionsHow do you handle it when you're upset with someone you care about?
Why this matters: Conflict style is one of the biggest compatibility factors.
Complete shutdown, refuses to discuss, or turns aggressive quickly.
What does loyalty mean to you in a relationship?
Why this matters: Definitions vary wildly — alignment matters early.
Are you still in contact with any of your exes?
Why this matters: Not inherently a problem, but clarity avoids assumptions later.
What's something you need that most people don't think to give?
Why this matters: Surfaces their love language without using the label.
How do you feel about your family?
Why this matters: Family dynamics follow people into every relationship.